it as my discretion. i would selfishly forgive or not depending on how my emotions develop in time. i might forgive one day, but i might never, for all i know<br><br>i take into account future hurt the person causes me, not just separately but also in those emotions about past hurt

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i can actually write down my whole flowchart for how i decide whether to forgive

step 1: if i can tell the apology is clearly disingenuous and the person has no scope to come to terms with what ey did and apologise better later, then that’s a no. same if there is no apology obvs https://twitter.com/TakiVT_/status/1739948829179592888

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@shoutplenty

step 2: else: it depends how aware the person had been of the consequences of eir actions and so how deliberate the decision to do them was

if i don’t think some1 is guilty then i’m ethically obliged to forgive em

if i do, then it’s not impossible for me to forgive, but i see–

12/27/2023, 9:17:34 PM

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@shoutplenty

it as my discretion. i would selfishly forgive or not depending on how my emotions develop in time. i might forgive one day, but i might never, for all i know

i take into account future hurt the person causes me, not just separately but also in those emotions about past hurt

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fleegar

@shoutplenty

past hurt also establishes awareness/guilt for future hurt, as is relevant in step 2 above

some ppl wrongly see this as me not having forgiven someone for past hurt

so with that blueprint, anyone who hurt me once can figure out my current stance towards em

12/27/2023, 9:17:35 PM

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